The lines and symmetry in this though. It’s pornographic
"so this is love. so this is what makes life divine."
Wait, I’ve seen all these feminist/oppression posts today and I feel like it’s even more reason for me to share this:
Yesterday, I’d told this one guy R(who I’ve actually had a couple spats with for him being problematic and thinking he’s justified in being problematic) that I was a bit reluctant about a new person coming in and he said it was all just drama between girls. He said, as he glanced at another guy J in the room, that drama is just between girls. That guys have no drama.
I stared at him like “excuse me??”
And he went on to say that the most drama he had was with this one other guy who went off on him for doing something wrong but all he had to do was just (and it sounded like he did it aggressively) tell the other to clam down because it wasn’t him.
Then R went on to talk about another guy M who also seemed the most dramatic because “[he] seems like he’s got a tampon stuck in him.”
He went on to ramble about other stuff about guys not having drama, but I stopped him and said I was offended by that tampon comment.
Both the guys looked at me like I was crazy and I explained that him saying that guy seemed off because he’s got a TAMPON in him is basically him connecting being moody and dramatic (things deemed bad in this conversation) to having to use a tampon, which women do. And I told him that was offensive as a woman because of that connection.
They were both looking at me like I was crazy and trying to say that’s not at all what he was saying and that there was no connection to women. The other guy even asked me something that was trying to get me to admit there was no connection between the “random” selection of the tampon and offending women.
I insisted that he was implying using tampons was seen as a bad thing because it was related to being moody and dramatic and to women, that is extremely offensive.
R said that he just picked something random and that it was like the story of the lion being all cranky because he’s got a nail stuck in him but he gets better when a mouse pulls it out. He said that he just picked something that doesn’t belong there. He said that what he said just went from brain to mouth.
I stared at him in disbelief because he was basically admitting he doesn’t think before he speaks. But I told him it was still offensive and that it shows he thinks poorly of women/thinks that being all moody is related to being a woman.
The other guy in the room at this point was like see! Girls create drama about everything!
I frowned at them and said they don’t think it’s offensive because nothing they did naturally was seen as bad. I said they don’t think it’s offensive because they never had to think about it. I rolled my eyes and said they were soooo privileged before leaving the room.
The fact that you were absolutely vocal about being offended and even explained to them why you were offended is huge. The fact that they couldn’t comprehend what you said and instead opted to avoid apology for their words and turn you into an example for their shortsighted beliefs is belittling to their own characters.
I’m sorry you have to work with some shitty people.
ghosting // mother mother
and this is why i have decided
to pull these old white sheets from my head
i’ll leave them folded neat and tidy
so that you’ll know i’m out of hiding
WHY ISN’T THIS THE LAW ALREADY ACROSS THE COUNTRY AND ALSO THE WORLD